Personal Details: Proper Balance

"I like you very much and I would like to overcome the boundaries of dating online. Can I have your phone number?" - to read such a request flatters many people. However, this is one of the only first messages sent on online dating to a pleasant individual, and it might seem a much too intrusive proposal. The next hints will help you properly deal with this kind of situation.

Intimacy levels
Whether the request of your phone number involves a very intimate question or is just on your taste too, you decide what is too pushy. Just listen to your instincts especially in the start of the getting to know process and take a little skeptical approach.

Our advice: You should always tackle with caution this kind of requests as regards personal details.

Set your own limits
What speed makes you feel most comfortable in the dating game? To discover it, you can set up a few rules. So, it might be useful to write only a maximum of three messages per week to a dating contact.

Our advice: Parallel contacts are a great way to explore your own limits. You gather valuable experience in online dating and also can compare the reactions of your potential partners.

If too intrusive, send a signal
If your partner's proposal was too invasive, you should tell him or her that. Simply write in reply you currently feel uncomfortable about revealing your private e-mail address. In addition, suggest you want initially to get to know better and underline the desire to take it slow. If he or she seriously likes you, it will very likely respect your desire and restrain its exuberance.

Our advice: Do not be afraid to put a clear stop sign. If the basic boundaries of a possible relationship are not respected, this should lead to the end of the exchange of messages.

Proper balance To successfully get to know over a dating website it is important not only to set your own limits, but also to find the right balance between the healthy skepticism and the necessary confidence. Otherwise, your dating signals can be perceived as a lack of interest.

Our advice: Try to obtain more information and ask why your online companion is too intrusive. Perhaps it is just nervous or inexperienced. Try to find out!

Prevent pressure
Your inner peace can allow you make contacts with easiness on a dating network. When you consider the behavior of a potential companion as too invasive, you can easily feel the pressure. Just reveal nothing that is not necessary in the current situation. If your wishes are ignored it is best to permanently terminate the online contact with a polite but clear message.

Though, a cyber relationship did not develop well, with a little patience and courage you will be able to discover someone who respects and accepts you as you are.

Our advice: True love is never pushy!

Monday, 23 January 2012 15:22